Stressed About Your Future?: Let Go of Your Need for Certainty and Control

By Colette Baron-Reid

How do you react when you’re in the midst of uncertainty and not knowing? Do you try to plan, scheme, strategize, and control, all the while driving yourself crazy? Or, do you let go and cultivate faith in the Divine?

Remember the saying, “Man plans and God laughs”? Uncertainty is the only certainty there is in life. Most of us, however, have to work at cultivating not knowing. Our Goblins—the wounded egos we all have—long for control and certainty. So much of our world is built on a strident need for certainty. Yet, certainty is actually just an illusion. When you think about it, is there ever a time when you know for sure how things will unfold? Even with your best efforts, you can’t control everything in the Universe. Jobs change based on economic and industry shifts. Relationships transform as people grow and change. Our very world is in a constant state of movement from moment to moment.

Even with intuitive readings, we’re looking at energetic future potentials. As I’ve often explained when I talk about predictions, the future is a mutable place that isn’t written in stone. Likewise, there are some things that we just aren’t meant to know. I talk extensively about the art of predictions in my blog Psychic Readings and Predictions: Can You Change the Outcome?

Ultimately, not knowing is part of life, which is yours to live and create in the now, moment by moment. When you get caught up in needing to be certain and to know, you become disconnected from the world around you, losing all of your power to create in the now. It is in not knowing, where you’re connected to your intuition and the Divine, that you’re most powerful. When you surrender the need to know and dictate what you want, you open yourself to Spirit’s messages and are able to intuit the next right actions for your highest good. As the Chess Queen from my Wisdom of the Hidden Realms Oracle Deck says, “You cannot know the power and beauty that is meant for you until you let go and ask for Divine guidance.” When you hand Spirit the wheel of control, you allow your path to unfold as it should.

I’m a recovered control freak. See, I admit it! For years, I tried to map out my life and wanted things to work out just so. When I found myself in the midst of uncertainty, my reaction was to just try to plan and control more. Then I’d get stressed when my extra effort to control things didn’t work. So, I’d take out some divination cards and ask for guidance. The cards usually told me to let go. “Why isn’t Spirit giving me an answer?” I’d think with irritation and shuffle the cards again. Then, I’d get the same cards again or a more confusing message. Looking back, it’s all very comical how my Goblin would emerge and throw a tantrum in the midst of uncertainty. This was years ago when I first became interested in divination and doing readings. But, every once in awhile the control freak emerges from within and I meditate on the power of not knowing.

Remember: Control and certainty are illusions. Living in the now is where all of your power is. When you find comfort in not knowing, you open yourself to amazing miracles from Spirit.


Write a letter to Spirit: Where in your life are you longing for certainty? Your job, relationships, finances? What are you attached to? Write a letter in which you hand over your longings to Spirit and ask for clear messages to help you chart your path in the now. You may want to write this letter in your journal, put it in a God Box, or even create a ritual in which you release the letter to Spirit by burying or burning it.

In service and love,


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